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A short post about today because unfortunately I'm going for Jog for Hope tomorrow, which I've never imagined myself to even go for a marathon in my life. Hmm..

Just a little bit about what I learned in church today. More specifically, from ZC.
I've never been for a ZC meeting because I heard it can be quite boring but since the topic today really attracts me, so..

I will just start this topic by introducing the Pastor who preached about it. Pastor Triffina (or however you spell it but it rhymes with Ribena - that's how she taught us to remember her name)..
Short info, she was a homosexual, SSA (same sex attraction).. hmm, her childhood was really - how do you describe it - full of stories.
When she was a child, around the age of 5 -because she was chubby- her parents started to ask her not to eat SO much, causing her to have a mindset that she's ugly for being chubby. Nonetheless, when she was only a 6 year old, a girl who is the same gender kissed her in her lips (french kiss like how she's mentioned it).. Who wouldn't be traumatized? When she was in primary school, the 'friends' started to call her tomboy, when she was in high school, she fell in love with a guy.

Then one day, when the weather was beautiful, this guy who had always cycled home decided to walk her home. It was drizzling, so romantic, BUT.. the guy was talking about how he had fallen in love with a girl which was his neighbour. Hmm.. that made her think that no guys liked him.

So, uh.. the thing is, she wanted to tell us how no one is born a homosexual, but it's because of the environment. How it influences, and how the media affects us so swiftly.

Hormones, you ask? I guess hormones will make people be like example, a guy to be girly, but because of the people around them who keep judging them and say they are very girly, he'll eventually prefer to like a guy.

So yeah, it tells us not to be too judgmental.

It's actually not WRONG to be a homosexual, because it really isn't their fault to be one. The thing is, we can't judge a person just like that, what you say might just affect one's life.

God will still love you even if you're a homosexual, but it doesn't mean that he agrees on what you're doing. Definitely, 'cause God has changed this Pastor who suffered a lot even after she met God. She was ashamed but she didn't know what to do about it since there was no one who could help her. Before that, I guess I've left out something..

Her parents used to have arguments. And when she was like a form2, her mother, her siblings and her were being chased out of the house. As a result, she became a 'husband' of her mom, who day and night complained how bad her dad was. That made her hated men.

So yes, she was struggling really hard, had a few relationships of SSA, but there was one of these relationships, which she was SO SO in love with this girl, and when they broke up, she was REALLY upset, she cried. Have I told you that she's not a virgin anymore? But what I'm thankful for is that even if she's so ashamed about her past, she shared all about it for God, because God saved her life and changed her in a miraculously way.

There's one day when a pastor from a church (can't remember it's from what church, was it DUMC?), anyway the pastor and his wife were just sitting at one side at the corner. She came up to them and told them what she had been going through.. Then the pastor and his wife were just listening quietly, without even judging, he said just a few words which changed her whole life. "Jesus loves you." These 3 words are so powerful that it changed her life. Yes, that's how awesome God is. Even though you're a sinner, He hates sin but loves the sinner.

Actually the whole main point of this little conference wasn't only about that, but it was about how to respond when:
1) A person comes up to you and says she/he's a homosexual?
2) A person comes up to you and says she/he's attracted to you?
3) A person (opposite sex) comes to you and tells you about their sexual activities?

#1 Is one born as a homosexual?
#2 Can a homosexual be transformed?
These two questions seem like it's answered in a way, so I shall not talk about it anymore.

but the first 3 questions, how would you respond?

-not to be too judgmental. Tell them "thanks for even trusting me and decide to tell me all these (because everyone needs a HUGE courage to do so), but in Christianity, I do not agree on what you're doing, but I will help you with a condition that you will find another person that you trust." [never do it alone, you can never do it alone :)]

I will end this post by telling a really interesting 'example'.
Hmm.. This homosexual thing is not in God's design, definitely not.

A man is created to give (to produce life), and a woman is created to receive. Well, uhm, how do I say this? A woman can never be with a woman because how can receive+receive work? It's clear that the sexual organs *coughs* are made in a way that a man should be a giver and a woman shall receive. (:
True isn't it?